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The Real Laws of Attraction: Why Positive Affirmations Don’t Work!

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer
Author: The Power of Intentions

Overall Your Life is a Reflection of What You Really Think and Feel You Deserve—No More, No Less!

In the past couple of years, several books on the subject of Attraction have been published. But recently some new thinking has been put forth to refute some of the past motivational dogma.

Do you know individuals who don’t achieve the levels they would like to or that every time they take a step forward, they seem to take a step back? I will outline a couple reasons why that might be happening.

Science has proven that everything in life is made up of energy; our personal lives are no different. Have you ever walked into a room with tension so thick, someone later said, “you could have cut it with a knife”? Or when one of your friends has met the love of their life and you say, “you look so happy, you are glowing.” How can we not only see the emotion but FEEL it, too? Welcome to the science and Law of Attraction.

Each of us is like a magnet; we are either giving off positive or negative energy/attraction. There are no neutral magnets. What we are attracting into our lives is reflective of which end of the magnet we are activating.

You attract to your life whatever you give your attention to. If you focus on the fact that you have little money, poor health, or few meaningful relationships, the Law of Attraction will respond by giving you more of what you are focusing on. Of course, most people don’t really want more of the things they lack, but because they are putting focus and energy toward the negative, more negativity happens.

You can not not think of something. At this very moment, I ask you not to think of a black bear. Please don’t picture a black bear, black bear, black bear, or a black bear. Almost everyone reading this has visualized a black bear. So just as in the black bear your thoughts are your focus. Let me explain.

Your language, words, and most important—the feelings (energy)—behind the words are critical to your intentionally improving your condition. Remember, like a magnet, you are always attracting energy. The question is: are you being a positive or negative magnet?

The research is clear that our conscious and unconscious mind filters out the words don’t, not, and no. Just like the black bear example, the statements of Don’t be late, Don’t forget, or Don’t panic result in your mind’s focusing on the wrong things. Whatever you give your attention or focus to, you attract into your life, whether you want them or not.

Rephrasing the way we think and what we say (the words) are critical to moving forward. For example, you might go from “It’s hard to find a partner” to “In the past, it was hard to find a partner” or “It is easy to find a partner.”

Life is about duality; there is an opposite to everything. Poor is the opposite of wealthy, healthy the opposite to unhealthy, and so on. To take advantage of the Law of Attraction, first you must be clear about what you want. The best way to determine what you want is to identify those things in your life that you no longer want and then make a list of what you do want. Clarity is a very important part to this process, so the sharper your thoughts and statements, the better your future.

The next step is to be aware how each of your actions and choices is making you feel. It is not enough to have the right words; it is essential to understand the emotions that your words and thoughts cause you to have. The energy created by the emotions fulfills the Law of Attraction. If something on your list irritates you, remove it or keeping modifying it until you identify what energizes you toward a positive way of thinking, then do more of this.

Why do most affirmations not work? In the past we have been taught to make statements in the positive and in the present tense to move us toward a new goal or objective, such as “I am a millionaire” or “I have a healthy body weight of ______.”

Most of us, myself included, have not had a high level of success with this process. Why?

If attraction works equally on the emotional energy level as with the spoken word, what do you think your emotional energy would be around affirmation statements that you feel might be unattainable or even untrue?

Your internal feelings/vibrations of doubt will come through in your affirmation process. This information contradicts most teachings in the area of affirmations and explains why many affirmations have not worked. Your mind identifies the affirmation as a lie and your energy and attraction process supports the fact that the statement is a lie.

There is, however, a break-through alternative. Credit for this breakthrough concept goes to Michael J. Losier, an expert in the field the Law of Attraction. His process is to get us to create desire statements that acknowledge we are in the process of becoming a millionaire.

So rather than saying “I am a Millionaire,” try a new format of “process and projection”: “I am in the process of attracting an ideal financial situation that allows me to do and enjoy all the things that bring joy into my life.”

That is just an example but already I suspect you are experiencing how your mind and energy would be more accepting and positive to the latter statement. As you progress, update your statements to reflect your new emotional response to each of your “going forward” statements. This single concept significantly improved my personal energy and attraction success.

There is a final part to the Law of Attraction process: remove any limiting beliefs that would hinder your success. The first steps will work when this next element of allowing is deployed.

“Allowing is the absence of doubt and doubt is often created from limiting beliefs. A limiting belief is a repetitive thought that prevents you from attracting your desire.”
Michael J. Losier
Author: Law of Attraction

Example: your current belief or thought is that there are no more great real estate deals; they are all gone.
You want to challenge this belief by asking yourself some questions to replace this limiting belief position.
Q: Has anyone in the country attracted a great real estate deal lately?
A: Yes.
Q: How many people are doing that today, yesterday, last month?
A: It is possible that hundreds of people found great real estate deals and that hundreds will continue this year.

You end up with a statements like these.

• Hundreds if not thousands of people found and invested in great real estate deals last year.
• Thousands of people will find and invest excellent real estate deals in the next several months.
• Every day hundreds of great real estate investment opportunities become available.
Can you see how you can, via these questions, reduce and eliminate your doubt?

Of course, much more can be written about the Law of Attraction. Start by implementing what you have learned and continue. If you are already using this technology, make sure you are teaching others.

To attract more into your life of what you want and less of what you don’t want, follow these action steps.

1. Acknowledge that your emotions are part of the Law of Attraction.
2. Remember that what you focus on, you will attract—wanted or unwanted.
3. Be aware of the energy in which you are living: positive or negative.
4. Avoid the words don’t, not and no. Today pay attention your language; become conscious of don’t, not and no. Then make a conscious effort to eliminate them from your word choices. (Note: Of course you will still use these words such as no more coffee, No Thank You etc. but in the context of wanting something.)
5. Be clear about what you want and desire. Simply list on one page your desires. This is not a goal list but your desires in the major areas of your life.
6. Words are not enough; you must also feel good about the words. Rephrase your positive affirmations to I desire or I am in the process statements.
7. You must remove doubt before you will experience your desires. Question your doubts using the process of creating allowing statements. Most of our doubt is false; identify and challenge yourself that others are being successful in your desire.
8. Stay focused on what you want, not what you don’t want. No black bears, right?

Until next time, keep “Living on Purpose.”

Ken Keis

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Divorce is a painful and extremely difficult process. Knowing how divorce laws function and understanding the court’s role in a divorce can help to make this transition smoother and easier, however.

Divorce laws govern the dissolution of a marriage. Every country has its own laws regarding divorce and, in fact, divorce laws can vary from state to state or province to province within a nation. Knowing your jurisdiction’s divorce laws can keep a bad situation from becoming worse, and save you future turmoil.

In the United States, divorce laws, in general, provide two basic forms of divorce: fault based and no-fault based. However, even in some jurisdictions whose divorce laws do not require a party to claim fault of their partner, a court may still take into account the behavior of the parties when dividing property, debts, evaluating custody, and support.

Fault-based divorces can be contested and may involve allegations of collusion of the parties, connivance, or provocation by the other party.

In a no-fault divorce, the dissolution of a marriage does not require an allegation or proof of fault of either party. Forty-nine states have adopted no-fault divorce laws, with grounds for divorce including incompatibility, irreconcilable differences, and irremediable breakdown of the marriage. New York is the sole exception divorce laws there still require a proof of fault.

About 95 percent of divorces in the US are “uncontested,” because the two parties are able to work out an arrangement concerning property, debt, children and support issues. When the parties can agree and present the court with a fair and equitable agreement, approval of the divorce is almost guaranteed. If the parties can’t work out their differences, divorce laws govern the fair and equitable disposition of these issues.

Divorce laws generally recognize two types of property during property division proceedings – marital property and separate property. Marital property consists of property that the spouses acquire individually or jointly during the course of marriage. Under divorce laws, separate property constitutes any property that one spouse purchased and possessed prior to the marriage and that did not substantially change in value during the course of the marriage because of the efforts of one or both spouses. Under modern divorce laws, separate property is returned to its original owner, while marital property is divided according to negotiated settlement and what the court deems equitable.

In cases involving children, divorce laws attempt to ensure the matter does not spill over into the family court system. In many jurisdictions, divorce laws require divorcing parents to submit a parenting plan spelling out each party’s rights and responsibilities.

Divorce laws also provide for the establishment of alimony, often depending on the length of the marriage and other factors. Spousal support is becoming less common, however, as more women are entering the workforce and earning their own income.

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When the internet first started, few could ever imagine how far reaching it’s effects will be more than a decade down the line. It’s a fact of life now that the internet will continue to change virtually every aspect of our everyday life. As the world’s internet population keeps expanding, so does the opportunities for entrepreneurs and ordinary folk looking to escape the slavery of a nine to five job.

Online wealth building is for everyone. The sheer amount of opportunities presented online enables anybody to start building wealth online. There are just so many areas to explore and regardless of your level of talent, skill or interest, you will find something that suits you. Someone once said that ‘you can turn any passion into profit online’ and this is more true now than ever before. It seems like the biggest problem is not in finding a suitable program, but rather in not getting distracted by all the various options that we get bombarded with. Every single day new opportunities open up and it’s our natural tendency to get in on the action. Online wealth building however relies on focus and having the discipline to not get distracted.

If you are committed to building your wealth online it holds many obvious advantages. The freedom to work on your own clock and answering only to yourself are the main reasons why so many make the shift from the office to the spare room at home. Many online wealth building programs create false illusions that leave many aspiring newbies out in the cold after investing their valuable time and money. The internet is a tough world when it comes to making a living, but then again so is it out there in the ‘real’ world. Don’t expect an easy ride, but don’t be put off either. There are just so many opportunities online that you are bound to find your place sooner rather than later.

I would like to offer you what I consider to be the five laws of online wealth building, that can help you greatly towards creating long term success online. I would encourage you to use these laws to evaluate potential opportunities or just to evaluate your current position.

The Law Of Excellence:
Things tend to move really fast online. It is critical that you commit yourself to excellence and to always keep learning and improving. If you don’t you will most certainly fall behind. Strive for excellence. You can’t keep doing the same things and expect to improve, nor does doing more of what doesn’t work won’t make it work any better.

The Law Of Quality:
I like the term ‘wealth building’ because it implies that it’s not some instantaneous thing. Quality always gets rewarded long term and although some of the ‘get rich quick’ schemes online work, they rarely work long term. There is a big difference between making a quick buck and building wealth. Whatever you create online, strive for quality first as this will ensure sustainability in what you do.

The Law Of Choice:
Wealth is a choice. You’ve probably heard this before, but never really understood it completely. Being wealthy starts with a choice and it’s a choice you have to make daily. The internet is responsible for the largest distribution on wealth in history. The power is shifting from the big corporations to the guy (or girl) in his garage with a single laptop. You can choose to be part of this or to keep doing what you’ve always done.

The Law Of Persistence:
When it comes to online wealth building, for some the learning curve will be greater than for others. Regardless of your skill level you will face many challenges and often consider packing it in. This is where persistence and perseverance comes in. Realize that you will always meet with much difficulty before you succeed – it’s essential for your personal growth and developing to a level of success.

The Law Of Value:
Whatever you do online, be a team player! I cannot overemphasize that enough. Your wealth and success is directly proportional to the amount of value that you add to other people. If you want to be more successful, just think of how you can add more value to other people’s lives.

Financial success is most certainly obtainable for virtually anybody. There is however a big difference between obtainable success and sustainable success. Just think back at the story of The Three Little Pigs – you want to build your ‘house’ from brick and make sure that your success is sustainable long term. After all, who wants to quit their day job only to go back after six months?

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